The Gentlemen’s Curb
It’s The Gentlemen’s Curb where fashion meets fitness in a BIG way. We are back to share some information with you! The term “own yourself” is often banded around blogs without people truly understanding what is meant by the expression. In simple terms, it relates to someone that takes complete responsibility for themselves and is comfortable, confident and proud of the person they not only portray to the outside world but are on the inside.
A great example of someone that owns himself is Gordon Ramsay. It’s not because he’s outspoken or successful, it’s because he is very much himself – and takes complete responsibility for his life.
Now, in terms of his style, he’s often found simply wearing jeans and black t-shirt; nothing fancy, but he owns it. He works hard to look good in a said black t-shirt and this simple style makes him come across as emotionally bold and sturdy.
See, not everyone needs to design your own hoodie in order to stand out, but people that own and personalize their own style do tend to be confident and congruent because they have found something that is very much themselves. It could be a personalized hoodie, a particular color, type of jewelry or even a tattoo — but, as a man, it’s important to stand out from the crowd and own yourself.
In fact, have you noticed how a simple change in style can completely change the way others perceive them; for instance, someone that never tends to bother wearing a suit suddenly starts wearing suits, and people’s opinions of him change, which in turn means the person’s confidence increases as a result.
In many ways it’s just like when someone loses weight or starts building muscle, people tend to become much more confident, and this confidence is then reinforced when they get more positive attention and affirmation, which creates even more confidence.
In this sense confidence is like a snowball; the more confidence you have; the more confidence you tend to attract, and when you have confidence in your unique sense of personal style it exudes a sense of a person that owns themselves.
Another person that highlights the importance of owning yourself is the fictional character, Harvey Specter from Suits. It’s not so much his style and classy look that results in this sense of him owning himself; it’s his forthright, alpha male attitude that gets straight to the point with confidence and intensity – yet, if he was now wearing clothes that were congruent with his sense of personal power, it would feel incongruent, and people might not respect his authority anywhere near as much.
This is why, owning yourself is inextricably linked to the clothes and style you choose, as people do rely on first impressions to work out who a person is and what they are about, so if you’re in need of a style upgrade in order to have more confidence in your style, now’s the time to make a change.
Essentially, the two fundamentals to having more confidence in your style are to (1) dress in a way that expresses who you are according to your own tastes and (2) make sure you are comfortable in what you’re wearing – both emotionally and physically.